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Name: Joe
Country: United States
State: Nebraska
Metro: Lincoln
Birthday: 10/22/1983
Gender: Male
Interests: Faith, Racing, Full size Jeeps, Muscle Cars, Guitar, Life, Music, Writing, Strategy games, Cooking, Purpose Driven Life
Expertise: Cars, Driving, Racing, Computers, Writing, Being onery, stubborn,
Occupation: Engineering
Industry: Engineering
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AIM:  shad0fx
MSN: shad0fx@hotmail.com
Yahoo:  Shad0fx
Member Since:
8/3/2004
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| A cold journey
Cold, so cold
Walking around in a blinding snow,
Unknowingly around in circles.
Legs are heavy through the drifts,
Tears leave frozen streaks upon my face.
My heart pounds and rings in my ears.
How small I feel.
How so far away from home.
Though the storm is only in my mind
The feelings are just as real.
The journey is left to live.
The storm is still to wither.
The road seems long and tough.
My path seems so unclear.
I fall to my knees, and pray.
Father, forgive me
Lead me to the light
Warm me from the cold
Fill this lonliness in my heart.
Calm the storm in my mind.
Joseph William DeMarco(c 2006) (http://www.poetry.com/Publications/display.asp?ID=P7386375&BN=999&PN=1)
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| To every guy that regrets hurting or losing her.
To every
guy who knows which girl he wants.
To every guy that's said, "Sex can
wait."
To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."
To every guy
that was never too busy to drive across town (or across the state) to see
her.
To every guy that gives flowers and a card when she is
sick.
To every guy who has given her flowers just because.
To
every guy that said he would die for her.
To every guy that really
would.
To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy
that cried in front of her.
To every guy that she cried in front
of.
To every guy that holds hands with her.
To every guy that
kisses her with meaning.
To every guy that hugs her when she's
sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.
To every guy
who would give their jacket up for her.
To every guy that calls to make
sure she got home safe.
TO EVERY GUY THAT WOULD SIT AND WAIT FOR HER FOR
HOURS JUST TO SEE HER FOR TEN MINUTES.
To every guy that would give his
seat up.
To every guy that just wants to cuddle.
To every guy that
reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what.
To every guy who
told his secrets to her.
To every guy that tried to show how much he
cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought
maybe this could be the one.
To every guy that believed in her
dreams.
To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve
them.
To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her
dreams.
To every guy that walked her to her car.
To every guy that
wasn't just trying to get laid.
To every guy that gave his
heart.
To every guy who prays that she is happy even if you are not with
her.
This is one bulletin for you...
Not many girls
appreciate nice guys anymore... And because of this, there are not many left out
there...
If you are a nice guy repost this with "Nice guys finish
last."
If you are a girl that thinks every guy should try to acomplish
even a few of these repost this with: "To the nice guys..." | | |
| A blurb from me about relationshipsWhen you’re in a relationship, take things slow. Enjoy the little things as well as the big things. The first date, to the flowers you give her, to the days you get to watch the sun come up or go down together. The trips, the classes, the days, hours, minutes, seconds you get to spend with that person you care about. You never know when they'll be your last.
Also if you love someone, if you feel it in your heart, and you know it then you should tell it to him or her. If you don't know how to say the words, do things to show them you care; Take their trash out, help them move; send them flowers on random days. Give them little letters, actual written letters (they mean a lot more than e-mail).
If you worry about whether or not she likes you, remember when you go out for your first date, she's already said yes, or when you go on consecutive dates after same thing. When she calls you on the phone, it's because she does like you... unless of course she's calling to tell you goodbye. If she doesn't call you, don't worry about it unless she says so, unless you have something to worry about. If you worry without reason, you'll just sour the relationship; you see that you don't trust the other person. When she doesn't call it's probably because she's busy with work, or school.
Remember to keep who you are as an individual. Until your married, you are who you are. You don't own her, she doesn’t own you… even when your married, you belong to each other, and you belong to God. If you've been going out for a while, then yes, your decisions will be geared towards the happiness of both of you, and as it should, includes her in your decisions. But when until then keep your life, have your friends. Spend time with your own friends, and she should and will do the same. This way you don't smother the other person. It's hard to fight off urges to see that person, to spend time with that person you care about, because you like them, and they like you. But it's better off if you save some of those times and those feelings for later.
Concentrate on being friends first. Build a solid foundation of finding out who that other person is, what she's like, what she likes to do. Slowly show her who you are. Don't give her all your painful secrets right away, over time those will come up, but just give her a little bit at a time and let it soak in. If she sticks around when she knows quite a bit you know she's liking you for you. Don't put on a face for her, be who you are, don't try to change that you are for someone. Unless that change is something that's inevitable already, like growing up, getting your career going. But don't do it for her, do it for you. Change will happen over time, especially if you have a long-term relationship. But if you force the change, and make it about her, it will again sour the relationship.
Concentrate on building up each other’s faith. This is a hard one too. Our society is drifting away from God especially in relationships. If more and more people would build relationships based on friendship, faith, respect, trust, honesty, loyalty, and last patience then rarely I think they would end like many in our society do. With the divorce rate at 57% you can see I’m right.
Remember to talk to each other and listen, even if your really not sure how or what to tell the other person, or if you don't want to upset the other person. If you’re having a problem with them, talk to them and work it out. Even if it's a small problem, because if you deal with the small problems right away, and know that you can get over them then the bigger problems won't be so tough to deal with. As long as you deal with things TOGETHER, you can both support each other, you can both work it out TOGETHER. Don't forget to pray about decisions and problems too. Sometimes when you don't know what to say, or how to say it, or even how to solve the problem, pray together with the person you care about and God usually helps out. Even when you don't pray God's there... but he likes his credit.
Remember to be patient, especially when it comes to the physical aspect. For me this one is a really hard one, holding hands, snuggling close to someone, and even kissing are important aspects of a relationship. Doing such things show the other person you love them. However, show them too soon and it starts a fire that is hard to put out. With the pre marriage pregnancy rate up in our country you can partially see where I’m coming from here. Wait a while, it won’t hurt you, it will be hard, but it’ll make that first time even better. It will also strengthen the relationship by showing that you care about that person about who they are, and you respect them enough to wait. This is something I tried and failed at, something I’ve worked with and have dealt with, and know I’m beyond that now. Trust lost when I failed, is another story.
That’s one thing that is very hard to deal with. Trust. For me it’s hard for me to trust anyone, because I’m always disappointed. Trust is very important to build in a relationship. How you build it, not quite sure on that one, but it happens over time. I once heard a quote which sums up trust really well, “Hurt someone you love, or loose that trust, and they’ll hurt forever.†That’s very true. If you hurt the person you care about, or somehow make that trust go away it’s hard to get it back.
I know this isn't all that is to having an awesome relationship, or even a great one, but it's a definite start. It's sad, my last relationship as great as it was, I learned all this stuff, too bad it's far too late to do anything about them. I would have changed, and I had changed. Change rarely happens over night, and for me it happened in little over 2 weeks. But sadly I wasn't given the chance to show the change. Given the chance, I know we could work through things, as long as we talked and listened. But that chance is far from me I think. for all good things, come to an end in the life of Joe... and especially true with someone as awesome, someone as great as she was.
But that's beside the point. Exactly like I said before... enjoy all the little moments as well as the big, the days, hours, minutes, seconds you get to spend with that person you care about. You never know when they'll be your last. | | |
| - Praise you in this stormLife, not so good right nowWell, life kind of blows right now. It's kind of funny, but the comment i made just before this one is about why, and that's the question i'm struggling with. You see my parents have split. Why, i do not entirely know, or understand. It's hard being away from home for so long, and being out of the loop. For those of you that pry, please pray for them. It's odd, i can fix cars, computers, but when it comes to this i feel useless. Thank God for Mary, without here, i'm afraid of what i might have done when i found this out. It's very hard to describe just how thankful i am, and how much more in love with her i have become. To know that God would put someone into my life where when chaos is all around me where things seem to be falling apart, just holding her, looking into her eyes, just plain being with her would make everything feel better. A dedication line to some poem or music video or something i saw a while ago said, "In honor of falling in love, finding someone who can take the pains of reality and turn them into beauty." well i have found that someone. What matters now is getting through school, getting my career going.
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| The only question I seek but cannot find the answer to is 'why.' Finding that answer frightens me. If you want to find the truth, first you have to have the courage to accept it. This being so then the reason the answer to 'why' frightens me becomes clear. Once in darkness a heart fell silent and deep. Caught up in it's own existance, now that heart bathed in light begins to see life in a whole new way. | | |
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