Update cause I’m a dork and LEFT AN IMPORTANT PART OUT!!!
Its in pink, and sis, ‘enter’ key can be my friend honest!
I have a question- do many of you know Aaron’s and my story? Our courtship? I could think of only a few and many of them dont have xanga logins. So for the new friends, and even the old ones- here is it, in all its wordy lenght!
Aaron and I met in high school, he says my freshmen year, I say 10th. We did have a jewelry class together I guess but I honest dont recall him in it till my 10th year. I was a geek in high school and an outcast. But thats ok, Aaron was no better, and probably far worst 
. So my 10th year of school, I take another jewelry class and sit across from aaron. I’ve seen him around sorta of and I know the person sitting next to him even better. Finds out Aaron and I had a lot in common- star wars, star wars card game that was out, card and board games of all sorts, fantasy, and what have you. I was just getting into reading fantasy in high school and aaron could be found in the library during any free time reading. I would go hunt him down and he would teach me to play a card game or play SW card game with me.
And you know, I think I left out an important fact about our high school friendship- he DIDNT even know my name for the first six months of our friendship. He would come home talking about that girl in jewelry class and his parents would say “Whats her name?” And he would go “I dont know…” and they responded in kind “someday you are going to marry that girl!” LOOK WHAT HAPPENED!! if only they were that good with predicting numbers! lol He did later find out my name but listening to the teacher call roll. Cant believe I FORGOT THAT!
Needless to say, that wasnt cool and we got picked on a lot. So a group of fellow ‘outcasts’ (for lack of a better word) got together and asked the jewelry teacher if we could hang out in his room and play our card games since he had large tables and what not, since several of us were in his classes, he agreed. I, for some stupid reason or another hooked up with a guy name Matt (who was also in ROTC for the army).
All the while in jewelry class bonding with Aaron (not in a romanic relationship, just friends). Aaron through only 6 months older than me was a SR. He had skipped a couple of grades and would be graduating in the spring. He kept talking about his theatre classes, and the show he was working on (both acting in and directing a one act). I was interested and I made my then boyfriend Matt go see Aaron’s musical. I started to get really interested in doing theatre during the daily talks with Aaron and knew acting wasnt for me. But the tech side sounded like something I could handle.
I got into theatre by two things- my family hosted a christian traveling group that was big over seas and they did skips- I could memorized the skips easily enough but the characters were hard for me to handle and through Aaron. And he was also the one who sat in my parents kitchen talking about theatre tech and looked at me and said he could see me as a Stage Manager…and look what I AM!! Now if only his family’s gift could do this with numbers, we’d be set for life!! lol
So when Aaron graduated, we exchanged emails and I got an invite to his party. At his party, I was one of his only friends there for a LONG time. I met the family- sort of. I saw his room and more improtantly, I got interested in some of his books (David Eddings). And though I was having surgrey soon to fix my jaw (5 years of braces werent lining everything up so I got to go to the OR and spent my summer healing) Aaron let me borrow all 10 of this ‘one’ series of David Eddings. I didnt borrow them all at once, just a couple every few days and my mom drove me to his house to pick them up and what not (I think she was just glad I was reading something other than Star Wars all summer like the summer before).
My mom remembers first seeing aaron fly out of the house chasing after his golden retiver puppy who was – to put it politely, a HANDFUL but much loved by Aaron…
My still then boyfriend Matt was old enough to go off to boot camp so he was going to be gone all summer. I was ok with that. He wanted more than I wanted to give and I felt the space would be good. I still remembering getting letters from him about wanting to kiss my lips and I just laughed cause my lips were about the three time their normal size.
Well come that fall, Aaron goes off to UNC and I enter my Jr year in a BAD relationship still with Matt. Granted I wasnt in too good of emotional shape and really wanted to have a boyfriend, so even through I did things I didnt want to do with Matt, I did them so I could have a boyfriend who I thought loved me. Maybe he did but still forcing a girl to go farther than she wanted, doesnt sound like love, now does it?
Aaron and I kept in lose conact over the term and he got me interested in theatre so I took the new tech class my H.S offered and really enjoy it, and even took an acting class or two in my next two years there. But it was a lose involuement while I thought of what I would do in college. All the while dating Matt. Somewhere in my Jr year, I break up with Matt for a while, then get back to gether with him, break up, repeat several times. Just cause no one else wanted me and my two best friends were dating at the time and exteremtly lonely. (just want you to know what state I was in for my Sr year).
I honeslty have no idea how I got through my Jr year of High School. Spring term, my mom and I were figthing a LOT, I was involued in an orangizanation called Job’s Daugthers and in fact was there ‘president’ for part of my Jr year, and working. All the while having a very bad relationship with Matt, boarderline abusive. Somewhere after Matt graduates (he was a year ahead of me) I finally break it off with him and only keep lose ties on him. I think he went off to bootcamp or something for over the summer again. I dont know.
I know I was working at CVC and was also going after Dan at the time, but he didnt want me more than a friend…I still remember much of that time being friends with Dan, the snakes, the library, towel fights…I patch things up with my mom but still on shaking ground (I think the day she found out I sneaked out of the house to be Matt’s prom date didnt help me case any).
So has my SR year starts- my two best friends are ALL over each other any chance they could get, and me, the third wheel started thinking about dating Matt (again) so finally my mom asks- what about that kid I used to like who was blonde…(aaron)? Cause I really really wanted a date for my Sr Homecoming dance. So I emailed aaron, its been a while since we had emailed each other. And is relpy came too late for the dance. I went alone…ok not completely alone. I went with some Job’s friends, band folk and my two best friends (I have the group picture somewhere, large crowd) but I didnt dance a single slow dance…the guys in the group never asked me, and my male best freind never thought about dancing with me for once dance…
BUT Aaron did relpy and he was willing to hang out with me during some week(s) and so I gained a ‘new’ friend. We hung out a lot on weekends- talk on AIM and email on weekdays/nights. Ok so really for about two months…he would come down and we’d see a movie, hang at my house, rent a movie or play cards. He got me involued in pokemon (didnt think I would like it but when we went to the first movie, I fell in love…)
My folks werent really having a big thanksgiving that year cause my dad was having surgrey so Aaron offered me to come along to his family’s. His Pashcall’s family of some 50 plus members. I was his shadow during this but we played games and I had a blast. (it was before this that I knew I really had a crush on aaron, and had for a while but didnt want to ruin it). So like a week later, I talk to aaron and we offical started dating (through in many respects were had all ready been dating). He emailed the next morning and said he had told his mom and she was happy for him that he had a girlfriend (finally- I was his first! and they were starting to wonder about him).
In two weeks, would I mind coming up for his smaller family’s Christmas? So off I went up to Greeley in my not knowing MIL’s car with Nicole and her first husband. Nicole and I had known each other when she went to HS. She dated a boy my girl best friend, Andrea and I liked but werent brave enough to date and we took offense to her stepping on our ‘gounds’. Plus she was good friends with my other best friend, Erik (who was dating the girl best friend) when we werent talking to each other in my 10th year.
Confused? Erik was my first boyfriend and though we only dated for 3 months, he was my ‘first’ love and I took offense, he was at death’s door with Crohn’s, so he took offense. 9 months of ‘if looks could kill, we would both be’ happen and then Nicole bought us back together.
So anyway, off to greeley we went. All be me, smoked but they respected me and kept the windows down and I rode in the front seat. Aaron;s Mom and Dad had been sepearted since my Jr year (when Aaron and I stoped emailing each other for a time, was when he’s world fell apart). But they were friends and could respect each other for their children. Aaron gave me my mirror that day…and his high school class ring. I still have it too. His parents told him when he got that he could never give it to a girl, by the time I came along, they didnt care, were only too happy that he had a girlfriend. My mirror he spent hours making just for me- he ‘painted’ on it ‘Thee, Thee, Thee’, which is from a fantasy book, meaning in short ulimate love for another person and not to be taken lightly for it has the strenght of an binding oath. (big stuff for fantasy people like us) and though I never read the series to just this year, I understood what it meant.
Another fond memory is they made this lovely ‘stew’ in a glass dish and then set the dish down without a pad or anything on a glass table- seconds later the dish was in peices but not the table and a family memory was born!
A month later, aaron asked me if I would do him the honor to be his wife, someday, not right then, but someday. And I said yes. To back up slightly, right after I started offically dating aaron, I told him about Matt, and the sexual abuse that happened. He respective wouldnt make a move unless I told him he could. He was very gentlemen about it. He knew I wasnt the same girl he knew two years earlier and I carried some very deep emotional scars that werent there but there was something there that he saw that was beauitful to him. So he started to help me healing and rebuild my self esteem and confidence that had been destoryed during my Jr year.
I also should mentioned that I had MONO during my SR year (mostly my spring term) and got it before we were even thinking about kissing each other. Another memory that will stay with us for the rest of our lives is my mom running out after Aaron dropped me off from a date and we’re hugging, and she’s yelling that I shouldnt be kissing him and how irrspondable I’m being (still havent completely recovered the whole trust thing from Jr year) and I yell at her- we were just HUGGING (and we were). Fun moment to look back on, through I dont think my mom would see it that way.
He was my BEST friend first, boyfriend second. He understood loneliness and dealt with it better than I could or did. There was a lot of courting he did- he brought me small ‘tokens’ or ‘I love you’ gifts. I had already decided that I wanted to go to UNC and he helped me prepare to talk to the Tech department, even knew some of the people and they knew him. He even gave up a show role to go to Prom with me (in all Sr prom style and not a repeat of the year before).
The director of the show, after hearing his problem said- its a non speaking role- take her to Prom. It’ll be worth more memories. He had to work his butt off to get his 2 hrs of Theatre Credit in two weeks, but all in all, it was a fun night.
My Sr year made up for my bad Jr year and that summer away from home, really helped heal me.
Espeically the summer between Sr year HS and Freshmen college- I got an intership at UNC’s Summer Stock Theatre Compnay and stayed at Aaron’s dads place. I took over Aaron’s room and he slept on the couch for most of the summer (last two weeks no so much )
His dad lived up in greeley with Aaron, and through I had a dorm room, I didnt spent much time there, I was over at their place, eating with them, watching movies, his dad would do my laundry for me if I bought it over, and really they helped mold me into the person I am today because of the talks we had. They both helped shape me from unsure teenage to unsure adult to finaly I made the final step to sure adulthood (or as sure as I could at the time, parenthood is a WHOLE different field!).
My parents get offend when I call my In Laws, mom and dad, but for a long while, both of them lived up in greeley and I saw them more than my folks, took my fights with aaron to them, they heard about my projects from school, saw most of our shows, were involued with our friends Kenny and Jarod. And after living almost a year with my FIL, duh he’s DAD. Not my biological DAD, but Dad- helped me with a couple of projects and took us out to eat everyonce and a while.
Getting back to our courtship, Feb 14, 2001, Aaron offically asked me to marry him, with a ring and ALL and I said YES and we made some calls- one of his uncles said over the phone it was about time! and my mom cried, not of happiness but because I was 19 and I guess she saw me getting married next week and throwing my life away. The theatre teachers had mixed feelings. They thought I would drop out now or something. They honestly told me, they didnt expect to see me graduate at all and I think they were very proud of how I came out. At least I hope they were proud of me…
Anyhow so Aaron and I decide to wait to get married…we werent rushing things, just declaring each other. Wasnt until Dec 21, 2002 that we got married. Though I did live with him from Aug 2001 on. So by the time we were offically married, we had hushed out all the newlywed fights about money, where he kept his cloths, chores around the house (ok still fight about that one, but who doesnt?!).
Also we picked up Kenny and Jarod…so Aaron and I didnt have much ‘alone’ dating time since we pick them up as best friends but that was alright. We werent into openly clingy onto each other. We have kept the best friends first, married couple/lovers/what have you second. we can show affection away from others, thanks. We even moved in with Jarod for over two years. That was actually a lot of fun and Kenny almost lived there too but there wasnt room for him to sleep so he had his own place but he ate a lot of our food.
Being parents, has changed our relationship A LOT. We dont have sex as much as we used to (TMI, I know!) but we’re still as close as friends as ever, even more so and well, I think its just me feeling different after passing a watermelon thorugh me that makes sex happen less and we’re doing a lot of other stuff at night cause we cant do it during the day cause Kiv is up, but thats ok.
Ashlea- we’re working on having more ‘couple’ time but AF gets in the way but we’re working on it!
We’re happy with each other for the most part and in a good healthy relationship I think. He doesnt need to ‘court’ me anymore but sometimes he surprises me and thats nice. I love him very very much cause he’s always been there- he’s willing to wake up in the middle of the night if I need him, to be there to comfort me however he can and ready to make me laugh at him, myself, life in general and face the world or my folks .
Ok I can not think of anything more I could add, at this time. I could later. But I just thought I’d share some of our past with you and what not. Feel free to ask any questions, I’m a pretty open gal about my past and what not.
Yay you made it to the end! Feel proud! I rarely type that much unless its something important, and Aaron and Kivrin are some of the two most important things on this planet for me.
And theres more!
I’m insane and its Cassie’s fault.
I just signed up for NaNoWriMo
In short (long) its this-
National Novel Writing Month is a fun, seat-of-your-pants approach to novel writing. Participants begin writing November 1. The goal is to write a 175-page (50,000-word) novel by midnight, November 30.
Valuing enthusiasm and perseverance over painstaking craft, NaNoWriMo is a novel-writing program for everyone who has thought fleetingly about writing a novel but has been scared away by the time and effort involved.
Because of the limited writing window, the ONLY thing that matters in NaNoWriMo is output. It’s all about quantity, not quality. The kamikaze approach forces you to lower your expectations, take risks, and write on the fly.
Make no mistake: You will be writing a lot of crap. And that’s a good thing. By forcing yourself to write so intensely, you are giving yourself permission to make mistakes. To forgo the endless tweaking and editing and just create. To build without tearing down.
As you spend November writing, you can draw comfort from the fact that, all around the world, other National Novel Writing Month participants are going through the same joys and sorrows of producing the Great Frantic Novel. Wrimos meet throughout the month to offer encouragement, commiseration, and — when the thing is done — the kind of raucous celebrations that tend to frighten animals and small children.
In 2005, we had over 59,000 participants. Nearly 10,000 of them crossed the 50k finish line by the midnight deadline, entering into the annals of NaNoWriMo superstardom forever. They started the month as auto mechanics, out-of-work actors, and middle school English teachers. They walked away novelists.
So, to recap:
What: Writing one 50,000-word novel from scratch in a month’s time.
Who: You! We can’t do this unless we have some other people trying it as well. Let’s write laughably awful yet lengthy prose together.
Why: The reasons are endless! To actively participate in one of our era’s most enchanting art forms! To write without having to obsess over quality. To be able to make obscure references to passages from our novels at parties. To be able to mock real novelists who dawdle on and on, taking far longer than 30 days to produce their work.
When: Sign-ups begin October 1, 2006. Writing begins November 1. To be added to the official list of winners, you must reach the 50,000-word mark by November 30 at midnight. Once your novel has been verified by our web-based team of robotic word counters, the partying begins.
Still confused? Just visit the How NaNoWriMo Works page!
Remember to blame my sister. (also sis- we can help each other along when ur visiting next month!!)
Ok I know VERY LONG post but deal with it
Laters
Kristen
scene I just read that made me go ack! people hunting down children…I’m a mom…that saddens me!) (finished 3-4-08 ish- VERY DARK…not sure if I will contuine to read the other two books out AT THIS TIME!)
but thats what happens when you have children, hobbies, pets, etc…
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