Years into the equal marriage debate, I think that we've all grown tired of hearing the same old arguments.

It doesn't mean that we don't have strong feelings about the issue, but it's just plain boring for us activists now.

On the anniversary of the Kansas Constitutional ban on gay marriage, I really can't bring myself to talk about how the ban couldn't be worse, it's just been talked to death.

Kansas, of course, has things much more anti-gay than even this amendment.

My case and point? Fred Phelps.

Known as a pastor, Fred Phelp's greatest hobby remains protesting outside military funerals.

Now my heart truly goes out for the LGBT community in Kansas. Though Fred Phelps really does not have a following, his protests still deal a psychological blow to the LGBT community there.

That, along with the institutionalized homophobia in the constitutional amendment, as well as the homophobia encountered in Kansas, makes me want to write a check to a therapist for every LGBT person in Kansas.

Kansas will probably be among the last states to legalize gay marriage, but now the good news:

"The public backlash over gay marriage has receded since a controversial decision by the Massachusetts Supreme Court in 2003 to legalize those marriages stirred strong opposition, says a poll released Wednesday.

Gay marriage remains a divisive issue, with 51 percent opposing it, the poll by the Pew Research Center for the People and the Press found. But almost two-thirds, 63 percent, opposed gay marriage in February 2004.

"Most Americans still oppose gay marriage, but the levels of opposition are down and the number of strong opponents are down," said Andrew Kohut, director of the Pew Research Center. "This has some implications for the midterm elections if this trend is maintained. There are gay marriage ballot initiatives in numerous states.

The number of people who say they strongly oppose gay marriage has dropped from 42 percent in early 2004 to 28 percent now. Strong opposition has dropped sharply among senior citizens and Republicans."

That's it for today. Ciao for now. Use a condom... or a dental dam for my lesbian readers... and if you're sharing a dildo I'd assume you'd best use a condom on that dildo... I think that assuredly covers all bases. CIAO!