I was going to write a book about the advantages of being single, but then it occurred to me that I should also write a book on the up side of being in a relationship -- but I could think of nothing, because I'm not in one!!!  Yeah, still a nun 'til the end.

Sis MC

Another Insight From Sister Mary Catherine

I just wanted to post on something that had occurred to me recently due to some observations.  I have come to the conclusion that there those of the male gender that are gentlemen and those that are not.(Many of you are thinking that this is nothing new...I know...read on...)  I would define a gentleman as a guy who treats girls (any girl, whether he likes her in  a special way or not) with respect and in a mannerful way.  He is in general a nice person to be around.  He speaks when you see him, holds open doors, and isn't rude.  On the other hand, I would like to define a boy that is NOT a gentlemen as a guy who is only nice or polite to a girl if he likes her.  Basically he doesn't see any reason to be nice unless he is after the girl.  This slightly angers me, because I seem to have come across a young man who can be ungentlemanly.  Just because you are nice to a girl, that doesn't mean that you have to like (as in likelike) her.  You can speak and be polite and it be just that and nothing more.  I can understand you not wanting to give the wrong idea to someone you don't like, but you can still speak.  To me, speaking and saying hello, etc., is just good manners.  Please take the time to remember that there are others out there that could use a kind word.  Don't act like the person you like or are interested in is the only one worth being treated civilly.  I would like to think that I am nice to others, whether I am interested in them (in a dating way) or not.  You can't and shouldn't treat people like trash.  It seems to me if you're going to do that, you don't deserve anyone at all.

P.S.  Thanks to those of you who truly are gentlemen.  It is greatly appreciated and I do realize that some of you are gentlemen.  Also, I would like to note that the same basic theory could apply to girls, but you wouldn't call them gentlemen.  I don't really know what term would apply.  I just wanted to state that I realize it can go both ways.

Currently Listening All by Myself By Regina Belle see related

Venting....

First I just wanna say that i am fed up with jerks.  They treat girls in a way that no one should be treated.  They lie.  They cheat. And then they get away with it.  I pray that I am never <again anyways> stupid enough to listen to a bunch of lies and put up with a guy who treats me like trash.

Insight..

Everyone seems to be getting married. NOT ME, THOUGH.  On the other hand, there are these girls that get a boyfriend -- they break up -- and the next time you turn around they have someone else new.  I didn't think I was asking for much.  I don't want 13 boyfriends or even 3.  I just want one.  And I want him to be the one.  I don't feel the need to date lots of guys.  Just the right one.  The right ONE.  That's all I ask.

I'm so sorry already, but here's my heart for all of you to see, I'm currently glad that few people know who i am. . . . .So why is it that  I cannot be happy, WHATS WRONG WITH ME????? No matter how great a friend a guy is he's just my friend, he just wants advice and help from me to get with that hot chick, it sucks, When do I get to be happy, You know what I want?. . .  and I want it desperately, I want to be loved, and I know people love me, thats not the point, I want to be loved by one man, I want to be the most important thing to someone( next to God) dang I really want that, Is it wrong to say I want that, It hurts so stinking bad sometimes, it really does, other people get to be happy, I want that I WANT THAT!!!! I know God loves me,just me and if it had to be just God and I it would be ok, but I just pray and with a ferver that God will take the desire to be married away from me, rejection sucks even when the guy doesnt know he's rejecting me, I dont know this doesnt even make sense to me, I suppose the moral of the story is this, be careful how you treat people, I'm so very shallow, and I should learn from my own pain. . What am I supposed to learn from this, I suppose its just that I will appreciate it so much more when (well if) it happens???. . . . .

because sometimes life sucks when it really doesn't. . . Frauline Maria!!

Currently Reading The Whitney Chronicles (Baer, Judy) By Judy Baer see related

I feel the need to post because:  1.)  It's been forever since either of us posted on here.  2.)  I've had some interested experiences dealing with singularity this summer.

Do you ever feel like there are two sets of people who see things two different ways when it comes to your being single.  There are those people (who can either be older and married or young) that ask "Why don't you have a boyfriend(girlfriend in a guy's case)" or "Why aren't you dating anyone."  At this point, I feel the need to yell, "BECAUSE NO ONE ASKED ME OUT" or "BECAUSE I AM A TOTAL LOSER."  The people who are older and have been married seem to have forgotten that they didn't just wake up and decide to find a spouse one day and lo and behold, when they left their house, their future spouse was on their front door step.   Then, there is a certain group of people (more specifically: my mother and other ladies who have daughters my age) who say, "You have lots of time.  You need to focus on other things and enjoy being single."  The truth is, I do enjoy it.  Though, at the same time I would like to have a boyfriend. 

In other news, the preacher from my church at home has been preaching on being married and single.  One night, we( a friend and I) spoke to him after church.  During the service, he had asked for everyone who was single to raise their hands.  Then, he asked for everyone who was single and wanted to be married to raise their hands.  I didn't raise my hand either time, I guess because I felt stupid, but maybe because I was afraid of being singled out( haha, an accidental play on words b/c I already am singled out.)  Well, the next Sunday night, when he continued to preach on the married/single series, he asks a question and then says something aloud about the girls he was talking to after church last week and looks at my friend and I on the back row (like good baptists).  Needless to say, the next week, my friend slumped down at the beginning of the service just in case she needed to hide.  We talked about what had happened to us the next Sunday night and a lady told us that she knew a girl who had just gotten married and was 36.  I think it was supposed to be encouraging, but it wasn't.  I don't want to wait until I'm 36.  I'm feeling quite spinster like, but i think it's because of the book I'm reading about a girl who's 30 and single.  All the books about single girls are encouraging because they always seem to find someone.  I don't ever seem to have any new, intriguing men enter my life like this.  Oh, well.  There's someone for me and I'm praying for them and waiting.  I'm happy though.  It's joyful endurance.  That's what your supposed to pray for instead of patience.  If you pray for patience, God will put in situations that will test your patience.  I feel that I'm in enough of those as it is...

Joyfully enduring,

Sister Mary Catherine