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| to those of you who read this, I am pretty much moving over to www.xanga.com/entity1216
Caroline and I have decided to try to blog together somewhat, so we figured that a xanga titled theslickguy wouldn't really be very useful or accurate.
Nate
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| to those of you who read this, I am pretty much moving over to www.xanga.com/entity1216
Caroline and I have decided to try to blog together somewhat, so we figured that a xanga titled theslickguy wouldn't really be very useful or accurate.
Nate
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| just moved...Well, we have been here for almost 16 days and it seems that a fair amount has happened. Caroline and I are both working at Carino's Italian Grill, and just yesterday Caroline also got a job at Bath and Body works in the local mall which she is rather excited about (mostly because of the discounts I think...) this week I'm working about 40 hours... and with the two jobs I think Caroline will have about 40 as well.
We also got internet in our house today, which is rather exciting I will say this, I never knew how much I counted on having the internet until we didn't have it for a few days, and we had to go to the local library or Arby's in order to access the internet. Which I suppose brings up another interesting topic, between the two of us we have one car and with the both of us working has forced us to wiggle our schedules in order to make that work. That being the case, and not having had internet has meant that I have on two separate occasions spent all afternoon in the Arby's dining room taking advantage of their free wireless internet.
It's been really interesting being here and not really knowing anybody, Caroline and I have spent most of the nights watching movies or t.v. shows, btw, my recommendation is that you probably do NOT want to watch Catch & Release (with Jennifer Garner) On a clear day (at least from what we've seen from it) The Last Kiss... However, I would recommend Music and Lyrics for a chick flick... not too bad.
Nate
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| GregariousAdj. - Tending to form a group with others of the same kind. - Dictionary.com I suppose that it is rather common at the end of ones time doing a particular thing, to look back over what has been done and to reflect on it. I have found myself doing this a fair amount recently with my impending graduation from the fine institution that is Bryan College. When I first arrived at college (about 2 years ago) I had decided that I was going to get to know as many people as possible. I wanted to get out of my shell and make friends that I would be able to say are my friends for the rest of my life. perhaps that has happened, perhaps not, but it is interesting to notice the others that I have spent time with. First of all almost everybody here that I spend time with is a Christian (I suppose that's pretty much been the case all of my life). For the first year and a half most of my time was spent generally with one particular group. Although we were all very different we all had a specific similarity, we weren't really a part of the other groups. It's not that we were social outcasts or anything (really almost nobody fits into that category here) but we weren't "Jocks" we weren't the really popular people and we weren't the incredibly smart people (though there were a few of us (not including me) who are quite brilliant). In Dec. I got married, and moved off campus. Although I still talked with most of the friends I had from before, the amount of time I spent with them began to dwindle rapidly. Soon, the people I primarily spent time with were other married people, or those in serious relationships. Was this intentional? -No... Is it surprising -No What am I going to do as I move on to grad school? -I suppose I will try to change that... Will it work? -it could. Nate | | |
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Love is an oft used word, that's about the understatement
of the century, we use it and hear it all the time, we might say it about a
movie, I love that "Titanic" or I love "Humphrey Bogart" as
my brother might say I Love Audrey Hepburn. Others say I love Ice Cream, or
I love this couch in the corner of the North Lounge. It is pretty much accepted
to say "I love _____" about pretty much anything.
That is unless it is from a man to a woman or vice versa. In that case the
relationship is often strengthened or at least pushed to a greater level by the honest and sometimes not so honest vocalizations of those three little words that start with "I and end with [yo]u".
Elizabeth Elliot once made a comment about this very anomaly when she said that a man should wait to tell a girl "I Love You" until in the very next sentence he was willing to sentance himself say "will you marry me"? She believed that doing this would help with the purity of the relationship. The reason for this primarily being because somehow there seems to be a connection between a woman hearing those words, and the willingness she shows to proceed to a more intimate physical relationship. This phenomenon is seen all over the place, whether it be in books, movies, or in real life people. Women want to hear those little words before they are willing to become physically intimate.
The question is why is this the case? Why do those three words mean so much? In a world in which sex is relatively freely given, why is it that one of the few things that will hold a girl back from giving in is if she does not hear the words "I Love You" from the particular boy that she is with?
This may be slightly far fetched but I believe the answer is in the Bible. When I look at Eph. 5:22-33 the first thing I notice is what a man is supposed to do as a husband. He is supposed to love her as Christ loved the church. This entails giving himself up for her in order to nourish her, to bring her to fulfillment, to protect her, to provide for her, to encourage her, to be there for her... forever at least until he dies. That is what a man is expected to do as a husband, that is how he is to love his wife.
Thus when a man says (in a relationship with a female) I Love You, he is saying these things, that he will be there for her, he will protect her, he will encourage her, he will give his very life up for her. He is saying that she can count on him, no matter what (at least to me that is a very sobering and difficult thing to live up to).
Women know this, it's innate, it is a part of their being (though depending on their past this may have gotten warped and perhaps nearly disappeared over the course of their lives). They desperately want to have a man who will do the things that a man is to do for his wife. They want to hear the words I Love You, I will protect you, I will give of myself to ensure your well being.
Shortly after starting to date Caroline I told her that I did not want to say those words until I was ready to ask her to marry me. I think she thought it was kind of odd, but she went along with it. For the next 9 or 10 months we would only go so far as to say, I like you. Throughout that entire time it was amazing how the relationship grew, particularly because although we weren't pushing any physical boundaries, we were able to grow closer in our friendship throughout that time.
Nate
To the women who read this... Not hearing those three words does not in and of itself mean that the man is unwilling to commit, it could be that he is waiting until he is very serious before he says anything. The important thing is to look at how he treats you.
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