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| codependency linksInner Child Healing
About.com guide Phylameana lila Desy has compiled a library of links about healing the "inner child." Codependence?Some of the nicest people I know are codependent. They always smile, never refuse to do a favor. They are happy and bubbly all the time. They understand others and have the ability to make people feel good. People like them! So, what is wrong with this? Can Al-Anon Really Help?Are you affected by someone else's drinking? Here are 20 questions that may help you determine if Al-Anon could benefit you. Codependency QuestionaireA list of 20 questions aimed at determining if you have codependency tendencies, from the Alcoholics for Christ web site. Co-dependents AnonymousCo-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. |
Empowerment & Victimization"As long as we look outside of Self with a capital S to find out who we are, to define ourselves and give us self-worth, we are setting ourselves up to be victims." Feeling the Feelings"It is through healing our inner child, by grieving the wounds that we suffered, that we can change our behavior patterns and clear our emotional process." Gratitude - a Vital ToolWe all have much to be grateful for, to give thanksgiving for, if we just choose to look at the half of the glass that is full. Learning to Love Our Selves"Learning to have internal boundaries is a dynamic process that involves three distinctly different, but intimately interconnected, spheres of work." Partners & ParadoxUnless you've been through it yourself, it's hard to imagine the emotional tangles that life serves up to someone who is involved with an alcoholic. Serenity and ExpectationsRobert Burney says, "The most insidious level of expectations for me had to do with my expectations of myself." Stinking ThinkingThe Joy2MeU web site lists some traits of stinking thinking including black-and-white thinking, magical thinking, and "starring in the soap opera." Truth vs Emotional TruthFeelings are real -- they are emotional energy that is manifested in our body but they are not necessarily fact. The Alcohologenic ParentThere are two distinct experiences for adults who are trying to overcome dysfunction and struggling to build strength and health in their lives. What Love Is NotIf someone loves you, it should feel like they love you, says Robert Burney in the first part of a series on "What Love Is." If the things in the list above sound familiar to you I highly recommend Pia Melody's book Facing Love Addiction. By Pia Mellody Setting Functional Boundaries. |
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| Dissociative Disorders Wikipedia: "Dissociative Identity Disorder, as defined by the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), is a psychiatric diagnosis that describes a condition in which a single person displays multiple distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment.[1] The diagnosis requires that at least two personalities routinely take control of the individual's behavior with an associated memory loss that goes beyond normal forgetfulness; in addition, symptoms cannot be due to substance abuse or medical condition. Earlier versions of the DSM named the condition multiple personality disorder (MPD), and the term is still used by the ICD-10. There is controversy around the existence, the possible causes, the prevalence across cultures, and the epidemiology of the condition." "Multiple personality disorder (MPD) is a psychiatric disorder characterized by having at least one "alter" personality that controls behavior. The "alters" are said to occur spontaneously and involuntarily, and function more or less independently of each other. The unity of consciousness, by which we identify our selves, is said to be absent in MPD. Another symptom of MPD is significant amnesia which can't be explained by ordinary forgetfulness. In 1994, the American Psychiatric Association's DSM-IV replaced the designation of MPD with DID: dissociative identity disorder. The label may have changed, but the list of symptoms remained essentially the same." http://skepdic.com/mpd.html "Dissociation is a mental process in which there is a lack of connection in thoughts, memories, feelings, actions or identity. While dissociating, certain information is not associated with other information as it normally would be. Some believe that dissociation exists on a continuum ranging from daydreaming to Dissociative Identity Disorder at the other. However there is great overlap between the different dissociative disorders (DD), including DID." http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=38077 "There are four major dissociative disorders: - Dissociative amnesia
- Dissociative identity disorder
- Dissociative fugue
- Depersonalization disorder
Symptoms common to all types of dissociative disorders include: | | |
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| The Rules for Being Human1. You will receive a body. You may like or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around. 2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid. 3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works." 4. A lesson is repeated until learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson. 5. Learning lessons does not end. There is not part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned. 6. "There" is no better than "here". When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will, again, look better than "here". 7. Others are merely mirrors for you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself. 8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need, what you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours. 9. Your answers lie inside you. The answers to life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust. 10. You will forget all this! By Cherie Carter-Scott, Ph.D. A handout she created 25 years ago that circulated widely and anonymously until recently when she published If Life is a Game These are the Rules
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