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Saturday, April 26, 2008
 

Funny how great minds run with a single thought--like Mr. Hat, I too was called for jury duty this last week, and had to plead age and infirmity and general cussedness to get out of it. I usually want to fulfill my civic duty, but lately I’ve been out of the mood, and since my oncologist had to write them a note last year saying I couldn’t perform, it didn’t seem to me they should have sent me another postcard this year, but they did.
Has anyone else noticed that in an age when EVERYTHING about us gets put onto a computer screen for the whole world to view, somehow, we still can’t get the word across about things about ourselves that we really want people to have at their fingertips, so we don’t have to keep saying the same things over and over again? Anyway, the trial I’d have been mixed up in would have been one where they predict it’s going to take two weeks just to select the jurors, and then the trial begins. The fellow who’s being tried wants to act as his own lawyer, so everybody’s going to have to hear more than they ever wanted to think about, about him, his innocence, and so forth. I don’t quite understand this part, because he’s already been convicted of the crimes--four murders and two child molestations--but somehow this is a whole trial, just for the sentencing. It will involve the possibility of the death penalty. Well, this has been a year when we who think we know something about the judicial and political systems we live with, have had some surprises, isn’t it.
If I’d felt better, I’d have done just exactly what Hat said was a frowned-upon ploy for prospective jurors. When they asked me about the death penalty, I’d have said it was too good for him. I suppose it would have been more dramatic just to leap across the pew and grab him by the throat, but understatement is more my style. Anyway, I’ll be following the trial with interest, and be grateful for every word and detail that does not appear on the evening news. I wish the little girl who survived didn’t ever have to think of or see that man again.
But--where the trial is concerned, I’ll be feeling guilt, too. As P.G. Wodehouse once wrote about Bertie Wooster, on finding that his former fiance Honoria Glossop had become engaged to someone else, he felt a strange mixture of emotions, something like being chased by a tiger, and seeing it stop and eat your best friend instead.
The doctor has advised me to sign up for the Hospice program, since none of the treatment I’m taking now seems to be building up any white cells or platelets or anything, so I’ll be doing that next week. A very nice lady has already come for a visit with me and my DDs. She put my mind at rest about two aspects of the Hospice program here. I ‘ll be allowed to drive while I’m on it, although I probably won’t be gadding around much anyway. And it’s still possible to have a moderate number of blood transfusions when they seem to be called for. I don’t know how this will work out, but at least there doesn’t seem to be any rule against the two things I wondered about.
I found the Hospice people very kind and caring when they helped with my husband’s illness, and these are the same people, so I’m expecting it will be as good an experience as possible. From time to time, if anything interesting comes up, I’ll report on it. I know not every Hospice program is the same. In Boise, there is no “place” called a Hospice, where one goes away from home to live. I was surprised to hear this, since I know a woman who works at one of those, but evidently it’s run by a different program. I’ll be in my own home. That’s all I know. With no immunity, anything can happen, and it might happen rather quickly. On the other hand, with my really disgustingly healthy and sturdy body, I could sit around here for years with nothing happening (If I accidentally say something like that in front of a medical person, they look panicky because they’re afraid I don’t understand what’s happening. It’s okay. I do. I just tend to exaggerate sometimes). It could wind up just like having babies--everyone waiting for me to produce something, and me reading a book. Well, probably not, but that picture intrudes itself on my mind. I hate to disappoint people, but oh well.
In the meantime, I'm getting to see a lot of family, and I love that. DS and DDIL are coming from Missoula next weekend. I hope it's quit snowing over there by the time they hit the road!
It's kind of nice here today. Sure was cold this morning, though. Hope you all are feeling Springy!
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Dear Joy, I know I have mentioned this before, but I love your attitude. You have truly captured the essential things, I think. You choose not to worry over much about that which you cannot control and you choose to love and enjoy all the goodness that is to be found around you. That is what living is all about. I am very proud of you, Joy.

My oldest was telling me just today about a friend of his announcing while giving an oral report back in high school that "98% of all people die at one point in their life." They all laughed and asked about the other 2%. Eldest works in a retirement village and death is something he deals with more often than any one likes. We were discussing this today and I told him 1 out of 1 people die and it reminded him of his story. I expect that neither you nor I are in that phantom 2%, Joy. But I have to tell you that one of my most favorite things about you is your ability to focus on life and the living of it. You have obviously worked at it and I love you for it. It has been my experience that death does not require any great amount of skill. Living does require skills though and you have mastered many of them so very well. I am proud of you.

I also appreciate your ability to make medical folks panicky. I do that too. =) Keep it up, I say. Just keep reminding them how atypical their experience has been with you this far. I don't know of anyone else who ever got so much use out of the shots they gave you, for example. That is why I tell stories about my miracle girl in Boise whenever I get the chance. You have done so well through so much. I can tell you that I have seen many folks encouraged by hearing about you, Joy.

I know that scrolls and books are mentioned as being in heaven in several places in the Bible and I know that God is a God of order. I take that combination as a pretty good indication that there will be one fantastic library in heaven. I plan on spending a lot of time there catching up on all the reading I missed out on here. Let's plan on meeting in that Library some day. We could start a book club. I cannot think of a better place from which to start a long road trip either. I'll even do some of the singing if you can bear it. I am hoping in heaven my voice will be better!  =) Some folks consider my views on the hereafter to be slightly irreverent, but I have never thought God was as thin skinned as some folks make him out to be.

I know things can happen kind of quick, friend, and I hate the thought of you dragging yourself gasping to the computer and dialing up for one last xanga entry. Therefore, I will take my cue from you. I will be glad for the time we have had and for all I of the time I have had to be so glad to have found you here. I am glad you are here, Joy.

Whatever the coming days bring you know for certain that you have a soul friend in Texas. Know that you and your family are all wrapped up in my thoughts and prayers.

I love you, Joy, no matter what.

Old Hat

Posted 4/26/2008 5:57 PM by My_HAT_is_older_than_you Xanga True Member - reply

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I think that it is a sad thing to be envolded in a trial. You have to see the bad side of the human being. Death, horror, pain. There is no real solution for that, does killing the guilty help anything? if it does do it, i would say, but I'm afraid the facts shows us that doesn't work. The US counts the most high percentage of people put in jail and yet the crime rate is one of the highest in the world. Something is not right.

I hope the spring weather will help you feel stronger.

Have a nice weekend

Carlo

Posted 4/27/2008 4:31 AM by carlo Xanga True Member - reply

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It will be a busy week. Enjoy it. The weather will improve for sure.

Posted 4/27/2008 4:34 AM by simonville - reply

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My HAT is older than you has voiced my opinion of you and I have often told people about your wonderful outlook on life. You are an inspiration ! An 87 year old lady I know has been diagnosed with cancer - her reaction was " at my age I have to die of something ! " Another inspiration. I haven't been to the doctors for years and don't intend to do so unless it's really necessary- what I don't know can't worry me. Ok that's my ostrich-like philosophy. However when I do I only hope that I can bear any bad news with the fortitude you show. Very wet and miserable here today, I think we are missing out on spring and going straight in to summer - I hope . Marie
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