iraq won the asian cup! the people were so happy they shot off stray bullets and ended killing about 7 people and injuring 50. this country just cant get a break. it was heartening though, to read about the importance that this victory had on the people. sunnis, shiates, iraqis, the US military all partied and cheered together. in desperate times, any victory is paramount and offers the victims hope and joy. thats nice.
the simpsons movie was hilarious. amazing. funny. silly. cute. and all that. go watch.
why are relationships always hard? im not just talking about my own but so many of my friends are going through problems or have some issue and this ranges from married couples to a couple that have been dating for 2 years to those who are just starting out - a whole spectrum and issues come up all the time. and theres never a right or wrong. like for some of them, i'm really good friends with both parties so i really get to hear both sides of the story and it's so hard to define the person at fault. there are always 2 sides to it you know? but here's what i can tell you now.
TO ALL BOYS: Forget about trying to find a female who will be direct and tell you exactly what she wants. FORGET IT. It doesn't exist. We will always understate our feelings and we will always speak in code somewhat. You ARE supposed to figure out the code. We expect you to figure out what we really mean, not what we actually say. It's part of your "job scope". Live with it. If you can't figure out what she really means or what your next step should be, call up a girl friend of yours and ask her. We'll tell you what you should do.
dont you see? we cant tell you exactly what to do because firstly, it makes us controlling (god forbid) and secondly, it takes away the romance of it all, the charm of it. i mean imagine your girlfriend having to tell her friends - "yeah he came to pick me up all the way at changi even though i didnt ask him to." (obligatory reaction: "wow thats soo sweet. he's soo great." girlfriend nods and beams with pride) VS. "yeah he's coming to pick me up now because i made specific demands for him to pick me at the taxi stand at 10pm". (obligatory reaction: silence. girlfriend starts to bitch about your relationship.) Trust me on this boys. Just accept it as your lot in life. Face it la, you cant live without us anyway. *haha*
yes but back to relationships. i used to think that this friend of mine had like a great relationship. he's a totally cool dude. not possessive, not clingy, nice, well loved etc etc and she's pretty damn awesome too - easy going, sweet, caring blah blah. i remember when they first got together all those years ago, all my friends and i were like "yeaahh that totally makes sense." but i spoke to him recently and he was telling me that even while he agreed he and his gf were great on paper, there were still so many issues they have to solve, so many that they still face to this day. he said in some ways you have to treat your relationship like its your job - you always need to work to make it better, to impress your peers, to rise. he said that after a while you can't be afraid to bring up issues, that you need to trust that its all about being in a partnership and all of it has to be worked through together.
nicole has been married to eric for the past 3 years and they were dating for about 10 years before they got hitched. i asked her once if she ever faced an issue that she thought they could not overcome. and she said that there's always this fear that eric will snap, give up, that anger gets in the way and damage matters. and we both agreed that what matters most is how you fight. whether both parties are willing to take the first step sometimes, whether both are willing to let their pride go, whether both can always remember even while fighting how much you love the other person.
i dont really know what set me off on this today. just thinking i guess.
