I just read the interview that Playboy did with Dr. Drew in their July 2008 issue, and it just solidifies my belief that Dr. Drew just rocks. I just love his straight talk on celebrity culture, our obsession with celebrities, his dead-on analysis of human sexual behavior, and the fact that he simply calls a spade a spade. He really called some folks out and it rocked. So refreshing. Totally worth a read.

Anyhow, here's an interesting excerpt from the interview regarding anal sex:

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Playboy: How is the proliferation of porn changing sex?

Dr. Drew: It has totally changed things: The young male's expectations of how women will respond to sex, what women want and how they want it are way off from the reality of who women are. A lot of kids have grown up watching porn, and one expectation is that women like physically rough, aggressive penetration. They don't. Another is that women are as sexually charged as their male partners. They're not. And let's not even talk about anal sex.

Playboy: Actually, let's talk about anal sex.

Dr. Drew: Well, anal sex isn't really on the radar screen if you're 40 or over, but younger guys have a preoccupation with it. They really want it. I've noticed this going strong for about eight years. At first I thought maybe it meant there was a lot of misogynistic anger about the feminism of the past 20 years, and anal sex was some sort of backlash. But then I realized it's probably the result of pornography. It hasn't been established in science, but my relationship with Playboy bears this out. Men in early and mid-adolescence have a period of plasticity and receptivity neurobiologically, during which they start equating sexualy images with desire. And what arouses males around the ages of 13 to 15 becomes fixed, becomes must-have. Now a lot of guys discover pornography online, which is much different, and anal sex is always on the menu in pornography. One strange side effect is that anal sex has become a surrogate for maintaining virginity. Young women will call and say, "Well, I'm still a virgin, but me and my boyfreind were doing anal sex, so I'm still a virgin by doing anal sex," which to me is, like, What? Virginity has become some sort of technicality. As a result the baseball diamond has been revised. Oral sex is now second base, which astonishes me. Oral sex was once something in the dugout after you got to home plate - it was sort of a perverse, extreme. Now it's the same as making out, thanks in no small part to the whole Bill Clinton thing. But what's lost is the notion that virginity once implied chastity. Anal sex is not chastity! We do a lot of coaching on Loveline to say "Hey, it's not necessary to do anal just because you saw it in a video or heard Howard Stern talking about it."

Playboy: Not to be obtuse, but what's so wrong with anal sex?

Dr. Drew: It's very simple. That part of the body was not made for doing that, and I dread to see what will happen to these women down the line. Once women hit their seventh and eight decades of life, a lot of anal pathology kicks in without having anal sex. So I mean, it won't be pretty. You get fistulas, abcesses and, later, prolapses. One night on Loveline we talked to a nurse who was a surgical prosthtics salesperson, and she said her company's biggest growth area was anal prosthetics and sphincter replacements, which are little rubber--

Playboy: Oh God, say no more!

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Isn't it pretty fascinating that he correlates the rise in anal sex with the rise of anal sex in porn? All those lil guys who watched it in adolescence have been trying to get it in adulthood. That being said, I've run into some girls who like it. All of them have been younger though. So the same theory applies.

He also had some great talk about childhood abuse and neglect and how it affects sexual behavior in adulthood. Fascinatiing stuff.

I'm personally not into anal sex. And I can see why. When I was an adolescent, there just wasn't much of it. That's what I grew up with and is ingrained in my brain.

Anyhow, I just thought I'd share that snippet. And no, I don't read Playboy for the articles. I wanna see some T&A! But I do still read the articles... afterward. =P

I'm off to Seattle for work next week. It's been about 10 years since I've been to Seattle.

I've done the most obvious touristy stuff... Space Needle, Pike Place Market, Pioneer Square... no thanks...

Any recommendations for restaurants? I love business expensing... =P

What are your pet peeves?

Do you really know what a pet peeve is? It's not simply something you don't like. It's something that is a frequent subject of complaint, where you often miss or lack the opportunity to do something about it.

Here are some of mine:

1) Bad grammar

your vs. you're, are vs. our, who vs. whom, than vs. then, except vs. accept, incorrect usage of the hyphen, etc.

2) When people don't use American figures of speech correctly (you FOBs!)

"If worse comes to worse" vs. "If worse comes to worst"
"I could care less" vs. "I could not care less"
"Doggy dog world" vs. "Dog-eat-dog world"
"It's raining like cats and dogs" vs. "It's raining cats and dogs"
etc.

3) Tardiness

4) Garbage not in the trash can

5) People who talk during movies, or give away what is going to happen, or say the lines along with the character when you haven't even seen it yet 

"You gotta see this" "or This is the best part" then they say the lines as they come out of the actor's mouth! WTF. Let me watch it! So annoying! *shake fist*

6) People who eat in the supermarket

7) Confusing pet peeves with plain old things you dislike

rude people, liars, cheaters... Oh really?!? Wow, shocking.


That is all for now...

Ever wonder what you look like when you are giving your O-face?

And what sort of sounds do you make? Honestly, I don't really think about it much. The other day I was having a convo about this and it was noted that while some guys do a standard moan or groan, and others even do it silently, there are yet some guys who friggin ROAR. I guess, the standard moan would be pretty common, and the silence would be kinda weird but still OK... but roar? Like "RHAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH~~~~~~!" ??? I thought was was only in porn. Plus, I don't like to think about images of male O-faces, that's just gay. I hate it when in porns they show too many shots of the guy's sweaty contorted face. WTF, man... not what I wanna see. Anyhow, I've been told that it's pretty hot when I moan. *shrug*

As far as women go, I really don't care I'm just glad to be there with them. Although, lots of noise is always a great encouragement to the guy. =P

What sorts of O-faces (and noises) turn you on, and what sorts turn you off and/or make it awkward or funny?